Wow! It's been awhile. Let's get all caught up.
My daughter has been a handful and a half. She constantly disrespects and defies my partner. It's like I don't want to check my text messages or go home even. Once in awhile she'll get motivated and do her chores or hygiene without prompting or arguments. It never lasts though. This has been going on for months! Arghh!
Fortunately my son had been an angel. An angel whose standardized test scores are ridiculously low. I've read many a book on their illness, schizophrenia, that I know psychotic breaks can cause a decrease in IQ, but my God! I'm still in shock. I'm having my ex partner (Anastasia, from my other blog) get him a Kindle for Christmas. Yeah, Anastasia sees the kids more than their dad, and treats them better. The kids have seen their dad exactly ONCE this year. Mr. Wonderful Father of the Year wants to see them on my son's birthday at the end of this month. He called my daughter to say that she should get ready to celebrate her, and her brother's birthday. HER birthday was in APRIL. Oh yeah, and I still haven't gotten any money from him in 4 years.
My partner's younger sister moved in with us and slept on our sofa for a couple months, then we introduced her to my friend Wunder, and she moved in with her and they are a couple now. In fact we went over there for pizza tonight to celebrate my partner's birthday.
And...two months ago my partner's brother called and said he blew the engine on his van and the next day his roommates kicked him out. He couldn't go back to one shelter in Joliet because he is banned from there until January (probably forever, he said to get back in he had to go to an anger management class and then they probably won't let him back because they rarely let anyone back.) He got into a fight and they ban all those involved in fights. The other shelter in Joliet won't let him back because he wound up in the emergency room because he had a serious bed bug problem, and he is allergic. The hospital called the CDC, or whatever, and the shelter had to do a major cleaning and de-bugging, I don't think there is any way around that one. Especially because my contacts in the county are on strike. That, or her brother personally burned his bridges with them. No one I contacted ever responded to me. When I had my issue with the county I got my first call back hours after my emails ON Christmas Eve last year.
So...
One guess where he's been for the last two month's?
Wait for it...
Yup, on my sofa! OMFG!
He had no place to go. He sold his van for scrap. He would be on the street. Their dad's boarding house is full. My partner's older sister and nephew are living in his basement. And the newly coupled, my partner's sister and Wunder...yeah right. Of all the sisters, the youngest gets along with him the worst.
No one gets along with my partner's brother. I pretend to, because what is really the point in not getting along? I have enough shyt going on.
So the week before her brother's van engine blew, I bought a used Dodge Grand Caravan for my partner to drive. She hadn't had a car for almost a year. She did borrow her Dad's small pick-up truck for about 6 months, but when her younger sister moved in, her sister commandeered it, all the time, leaving her home all...the...time.
My partner's Mom passed away from lung cancer in March. She also lost her job at Speedway. Those fuckers fired her for failure to submit emergency medical leave forms because she took off to take care of her Mom and take her to chemo. She submitted the paperwork twice by fax and twice by mail. We have no proof. I drafted an affidavit for the doctor to sign and are using it for the appeal, but chances are slim it will be successful.
It's a nightmare I tell you! She is appealing, but she had no proof other than Speedway sent a certified mail AFTER the deadline they gave in the letter! Yup, that way it was guaranteed they wouldn't get her completed paperwork by their deadline.
Oh, did I mention not only is my partner's brother vehicleless, homeless....
he's also...
jobless.
I am supporting FIVE, count em...
FIVE people.
Is it EVIL for me to have the idea of buying a one way Amtrak ticket for someplace warm? Not for me, for my partner's brother. Someplace warm in case he has to live on the street for awhile? It's not good that he's here. He does not know how to be on his own and I know we are going to have a helluva time getting him to leave come January (God willing he gets back into the shelter he was banned from) or Spring. He is disrupting the kids, he fights all the time with my partner...and he cannot seem to keep quiet. He talks constantly. It's gotten so that I come home from work and go to the master bedroom for the night. I can't even watch my big screen tv in the living room. Bears games are hell.
Christmas is sooo going to suck for me. Pull up a chair, grab a brewski, or a cup a Joe, cuz it's officially a pity party.
Seriously. I am the only one with money. I am also the person that plans ahead and squirrels away gifts long before the holidays. No one else does.
So, what else? Marriage is finally legal in IL. Can't tie the knot until June 1st. I thought... time to pop the question. We've been together two and a half years. So, since I am the only one working, I picked out and ordered 2 diamond, white gold rings from Sears. I was going to pop the question on her birthday, which is today, however, there was an issue with the rings...they were hideous in person. I sent them back and am waiting for my refund. Then I will be spending all or part of that money for a tech to come out and fix my Bosch front load washer that my daughter broke again. Laundromat...fun times...not!
Hmmm...what else? The van needs service. It keeps stalling. My SUV needs new front tires. They are cupping so bad it feels like I put a quarter in and I'm getting my money's worth on the vibrator! It's exhausting just typing this, but I'm living it too.
Back in my previous life with my ex husband when he became ill with schizophrenia and my kids were little and he lost job after job and we almost lost the house in Chicago 4 times, people used to say to me "God doesn't give you more than you can handle." I think it's plain to see...either God thinks very highly of my capabilities, or she's having a jolly old time messing with me.
I would love to get some comments. I'm not really friends with Wunder anymore. So I don't really have any friends. Anastasia is sort of a friend, but only when she has time, which is rare. She lost her job the same time her Mom was diagnosed with lung cancer and dementia. She is currently working full time at her Mom's house, taking care of her Mom and her quadriplegic brother. With Wunder there was an issue with my surprise birthday party. The issue was, she planned it with my partner, and then said she'd take care of the invites, food, everything. She didn't do any of it. There was no party, no gift, zip. Now you can see why I'm setting my expectations for Christmas to nothing. If I expect nothing, then I can't be disappointed.
So comment. Refer me to a network to revive the soap opera with a dramatization of my life. Hell! I've got drama enough. Tell me a joke! I could use a laugh. Give me some advice. Tell me I am full of myself...it's all about me. Tell me to f' off. Talk to me.
C o m m u n i c a t i o n...
That's what I miss.
